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An Uncommon Friend.

Why is it that we are so damn afraid of challenges? They scare us sure, but why? The fear of uncertainty, the fear of failure, these are both valid explanations. But really what I want to know is who gave challanges so much power. Who deemed them boss? Who let them control so much of what we do? It is with much sadness that i say the answer to all those questions is us. Maybe it is not directly the challenge but more of the sensations we feel when coming face to face with a challenge that we fear. The weight we have allowed a “challenge” to carry is astronomical. For example, say one day a wonderful idea pops into your head! Geniuses! But then the opposition calls in their fire power. An array of challenges pops into your head. I don’t know the right people, I don’t have enough money, I’ve never tried something like that before. All of these are the challenges we so often face, and all of these are phrases that have effected our lives in more ways than we can imagine. Think for a second what your life would be if instead of fearing and running away from a challenge, you embraced it. What if you didn’t see “challenges” as a obstacle or road block but instead saw them as an opportunity for growth, new knowledge, and to develop yourself as a more in tuned human being. 

You see I believe the issue lies in our perspective. “Perspective is everything”, a phrase we so often hear, and so often let pass without the slightest marination on its validity. But you see its true. The way you view something drastically changes the results of it. If you see something as negative you will soon yield negative results. If you see something in a positive light however you will then see positive results. The output results always mimics the input emotions. 

Looking back into challenges specifically, I ask that the next time you are met with one you embrace it. I beg you swing your doors wide open, wave it in and treat it to a meal. Because with the correct perspective we see “challenges” are actually packed with positives.One of which I’d like to share . While it may seem quite contrary, challenges in fact create the happiest and most joyous moments of our existence. Please allow me to expand my thoughts.

When we are faced with a challenge we often times sink in happiness. We may feel overwhelmed, sad, or maybe depressed. But because we can feel these empty, cold emotions it means we can also feel extreme joy and glee. If we were never able to walk through the deep steep valleys and feel their emptiness we would never reach the magnificent mountain tops and the exuberant happiness they posses. With out sadness we would only feel extreme happiness, which would become a normalized feeling and would no longer feel quite so extraordinary. The wonderful feelings of happiness would completely disappear if were not as equally familiar with the feelings of despair. So in reality we should thank challenges for arising. Not only do they allow opportunity to grow and ever improve ourselves they also allow us to feel the saddest of emotions. But right behind the saddest of emotions is the happiest of emotions ready to take their place.

The truth is I really hope you think for a second before judging a challenge that arises. Do not be quick to label it in one direction or the other. Allow it to marinate. Look for the positives that will come out of it. Chances are if you do this, you will find it may be in your best interest to make challenges an uncommon friend.

 

Be easy my friends

-Trev

 

P.S. I am in the process of creating an ebook. The book will describe a spelled out plan to acquiring your dreams through using visualization, emotions, and the correct habits. Please like this post if you may be interested in grabbing a copy once its completed.

 

 

 

 

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The Altered Mirror Image

For how ever long you have been alive you have been making efforts towards establishing who you are as a person. You have been creating and evaluating your morals and values. You have been forming your likes and dislikes. And then as we all do you have expressed this to the world to see. Maybe through the clothes you wear or the music you listen to. In some way or another you have tried to convey what it is you stand for to the outside world. In the last few years though as social media outlets have begun to capture a larger percent of our attention it seems we have created an alternative life as well. Here is where a great imbalance has been created. In the youth of today I see a glaring issue we must confront. The importance of ones online presence and the ideals they represent in this virtual world have grown to greatly outweigh the importance of the image they convey in the real world. As we have become more and more controlled by the likes and dislikes of our peers we have become overly concentrated on how we are perceived via profile page. Because of this we now have a magnificent disconnect. With such effort being poured into a “coded” world we have forgotten to express our true intentions in reality. We no longer see kids and young adults greatly infatuated by music, art, and emotions as we did in times past. The greater importance is now placed on making sure your profile pictures will get enough likes or retweets. While on a base level there is nothing wrong with having an online presence there is something wrong with the youth not expressing the same viewpoints in reality. I propose we must transition the mindset to a state of expressing a parallel image in both realities. If one feels confident enough to perceive an image of themselves online, they should feel confident enough to perceive this same image to their peers in real life. I truly believe if this were done we would see a great increase in the emotional equilibrium in peoples lives. Those of us in this skewed mindset have allowed the approval of virtual friends to hold greater weight than the real friends we have around us. More than likely the majority of online profile users are “friends”, on social media sites, with people they rarely even associate with, or worse yet barely even know. Who decided these people’s opinions holds such a monumental weight? We must become aware to the fact that these people’s viewpoints hold very little value in our lives. Ultimately an effort must be made for the youth of today to feel confident enough to express the values they hold online to the real world. I truly believe if this were to be done the world could be graced with the presence of some of the greatest writers, artists, musicians, and creative we have yet to see. Online we feel free to express our innermost drives and sensations. I ask please, go into the real world and share these as well. You doing so will only spark a revolution and encourage others to do the exact same thing. The power to change the world and the way things are done is truly in you hands. The choice is up to you. Allow the world to continue on its path, or change it for a more progressive, expressive, and fulfilled world for all to love.